The holidays can do two things: they can remind us of everything that we're lucky to have and they can remind us of everything we don't. Maybe it's the mom in me but I can't stand the idea of anyone being disappointed during the holidays. That disappointment usually comes from people, our expectations of those people, and the ways those people might let us down.
So for this episode, I want to share some of my advice for beating that holiday disappointment. It's a short one but a good one, so let's get right into it.
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Oh, the weather outside is frightful. Guys, it's Christmas. It's my favorite, it's my favorite. But I have to admit that Christmas also puts a highlight on what's missing, what's changed, who's missing, and who's changed, just the end of the year does that in general. So today we're going to chat all about disappointment, around the holidays, especially in regards to people, and how to manage your feelings. And just the holidays in general, the logistics of the holidays in general, when you have unmet expectations, right here, on Pretty Rich Podcast.
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Hey, you guys. Welcome to another amazing episode of Pretty Rich Podcast. As I record this, it is the Tuesday, right before Christmas, 2020. And we have all had quite the year, and on top of it, a lot of people are depressed around the holidays. And understandably, because the holiday season, in case you find yourself keeping score, doing things like taking a mental note of who showed up, who sent you a card. Or in this case, if you're not doing gatherings, who bothered to call you on Christmas Day. And here's a big one, I think for moms, I personally look at who is there for my kids. Not even for me, who bothered to make an effort to not even buy my kids anything, but to show up for my kids. And even if it's just a phone call or a FaceTime, that's something that I think only moms understand.
It's Christmas, right? And I make an effort. I make an effort to make sure that my first tier really knows how much they mean to me, I make sure that I say it all. I don't want to have any regrets. As somebody who, I have high standards for my relationships, and I think for certain people that might be overwhelming. I'm a doer, I go above and beyond. Above and beyond in everything in life, and that's including relationships. And I used to think that that was something that I needed to ease up on, don't expect too much of people, but I've kept my high standards because that's just who I am. And I'm really glad I did because now my life is filled with relationships that are meaningful, and rich, and real, most of all.
If it's Christmas and you're here thinking about the people who didn't put in the effort, who didn't make it, and sometimes that can be really painful because it's somebody that you love dearly, maybe it's even a family member. I want to invite you to explore what would happen if you were to stop chasing them, what would happen? What if you realize that if it were real, you wouldn't be able to get rid of them? And perhaps, maybe this is the best they can really do, no really. Maybe this is as deep as it gets. And as much as I keep saying, "I don't chase people anymore. I meet people at their level," I find myself slipping back into old habits, momentarily.
I know exactly where this comes from too. It's obviously from pain, it's from fear. It comes from trying to redo my past and recreate the childhood I wish I had, and we all do this. I want my kids to have a better childhood than I did. And this holiday, in case you find yourself keeping score, doing things like taking a mental note of who wasn't there for you, who didn't give as much as you did, you might be also thinking about the past. About who used to be there, who were you closest to, who the people who swore their love and devotion to you last year, but this year, are not anywhere near your circle. You may find yourself keeping a tally, and it's normal. But it's not the point of the holidays, I don't think so. Sure. You can be sad about it. You can acknowledge the feeling and move on because not everyone in our lives is meant to be there the entire time. And that's a reality we all must accept.
It's something that you don't understand when you're a kid, but it's something that you quickly need to learn to adapt to and understand as adults. Because some people are only meant to be there for a portion of the journey, but not the whole thing. They serve their purpose in yours, and you and theirs, but that's it. You just need to let go and trust. There's no point chasing people or wish they were different, wish they showed up for you, wish they were there. They aren't in your life because it was never meant to last to begin with. Because if it were real, if it was meant to be that way, you wouldn't be able to get rid of them. They would just be there.
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I know a lot of us are celebrating the holidays, a lot of us are, with a smaller gathering this year. This part is so hard for me because I go all out for Christmas. We have a big party, we invite everybody and their mother, everyone and their cleaning lady. But I think this whole year has taught us to kind of slow down. And just double down, triple down, on the people who are there. Whoever is present, pour into them, hug them tight. Stop thinking about who isn't there, and instead pour into the ones who are right in front of you, because sometimes you'll waste time, muddling through disappointment, and heartache, and wallowing with unmet expectation. And you might miss it. Don't miss it. Pour into the ones who are right in front of you because the miracles that you're looking for, lots of times, it's right under your nose. They're the ones who are there, where you can just reach out and touch. Right, right, now.
These moments, although imperfect are priceless. And remember, one day, you're going to want this back. Don't miss it. Be ever so present because all we have is time. Merry Christmas.
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Please review my mommy on iTunes.
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Thanks for listening.
Thanks for listening.
Hey Beau, can you tell everybody what our family motto is?
Yeah, I can do hard things.
I can do hard things. Good job, buddy.